Colour Psychology

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Colour Psychology

Never underestimate the power of colour , or lack of, in your life.There have been numerous studies that prove colour’s powerful effect.In fact in several states in the U.S., prisons have issued PINK only uniforms to their prisoners in a means to subdue them, and it works.In fact the Psychology of colour is now a very important factor in marketing, in business , in public speaking, based on its unconscious reaction it provokes.Restaurants used RED to stimulate hunger, spas use light green or blues, Psychiatric hospitals use soft pinks or greens.

So I wonder how your clothes and the colours you wear affect your emotional state and also how people respond to you.

Let say you have an important job interview…wear red is bold and filled with energy, but for a circumstance like this, it might come across as too arrogant, headstrong.Best colours for a job interview are shirt in blue and white…showing intelligence (blue) and trust (white), mixed with a blue suit.Brown is also good to denote a conservative, calm approach, for woman a green dress shows you’re keen, blue (intelligence, sharp) and so on.

In a consulting room, splashes of red can increase attention and stimulate the excitement of the work you do, show a sharpness…but not too much.

On a date is where colour can really be fun…depending on your mood and what you want to convey red is definitely a power statement.Bold, confident, energized…green, calm, easy-going, trustworthy, blue sharp, clean, intelligent, brown classic, conservative, yellow a bit alternative, happy-go-lucky, .

Refer to the chart above and colour code your life.

Going for a run, feeling tired…definately wear RED .

enjoy

Deirdre Rolfe

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Your 9 Needs

 

 

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The Nine Needs:

We all have basic human needs in order to feel in balance in our lives.On a seperate pice of paper write down your hieracrcy of needs in order of importance to have a sense of where to begin working on what you need for you in your life now.Write these needs in tiers of “3” from the first colum being most important, to the 3 in middle being of medium importance and the final 3 being  the least important.This will give you a visual “map” to follow allowing you to ascertain if you are adressing the right needs in order of theri importance.

You may also chose to individualize these needs to suit you by adding your own version of what each need means to you.This will giv eenv further clarity to what you need in order to feel fulfilled.

Security

Security is the need to feel safe, to feel assured that they know what is going to happen, to know ahead of time what the plans are.

Adventure

Adventure is the need for an adrenaline rush, to have new experiences, to travel, to have BIG experiences. To discover and be curious.

Freedom

Freedom is the need for independence and spontaneity. It is also the need to have choices and to feel in control of making those choices. To have your own space.

Love

Love, nourishment, touch, connectivity of self and with others, authenticity, self love.

Power

People with a need for Power need to be in a position of authority and responsibility.

Health

Inner strength, longevity, energy overall wellness,

Acceptance

Acceptance is the need to accept yourself and be accepted by others. 

Community

People with a need for Community like to feel they are contributing to their community; making a difference.

Expression

Expression is the need to be artistic, to be seen, to be heard, to be felt. It is the need to express oneself through words, speech, actions, dress, art and self-creations of all types.

Enjoy 🙂

Deirdre Rolfe M.T.C.

Clinical Counsellor & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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Its all Perspective

Life is a matter of PERSPECTIVE

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THE ELEPHANT AND THE BLIND MEN
John Godfrey Saxe’s ( 1816-1887) version of the famous Indian legend,

It was six men of Indostan
To learning much inclined,
Who went to see the Elephant
(Though all of them were blind),
That each by observation
Might satisfy his mind.

The First approach’d the Elephant,
And happening to fall
Against his broad and sturdy side,
At once began to bawl:
“God bless me! but the Elephant
Is very like a wall!”

The Second, feeling of the tusk,
Cried, -“Ho! what have we here
So very round and smooth and sharp?
To me ’tis mighty clear
This wonder of an Elephant
Is very like a spear!”

The Third approached the animal,
And happening to take
The squirming trunk within his hands,
Thus boldly up and spake:
“I see,” quoth he, “the Elephant
Is very like a snake!”

The Fourth reached out his eager hand,
And felt about the knee.
“What most this wondrous beast is like
Is mighty plain,” quoth he,
“‘Tis clear enough the Elephant
Is very like a tree!”

The Fifth, who chanced to touch the ear,
Said: “E’en the blindest man
Can tell what this resembles most;
Deny the fact who can,
This marvel of an Elephant
Is very like a fan!”

The Sixth no sooner had begun
About the beast to grope,
Then, seizing on the swinging tail
That fell within his scope,
“I see,” quoth he, “the Elephant
Is very like a rope!”

And so these men of Indostan
Disputed loud and long,
Each in his own opinion
Exceeding stiff and strong,
Though each was partly in the right,
And all were in the wrong!

This poem beautifully illustrates how our reality is simply what we perceive from our point of reference. So often we get caught in defending our need to be right based on where we are standing. Yet this point illustrate how another’s person’s viewpoint can be equally right…just a “different” perspective…neither wrong nor right.

And freedom can be gained from recognizing we are all right and all wrong.

It also shows us we don’t’ have to be stuck in our realities…that change can occur by stepping to the right or left and viewing the situation from another perspective in order to find a different approach or feeling towards it.

 I wonder in what area of your life  are you unable to see the whole picture?Suppose you look at it from another perspective?Perhaps the answers are right in front of you afterall.

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotist and Clinical Counsellor

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Take the STRESS TEST

Stress Evaluation Questionnaire

Are you stressed?

Take the test

Excessive stress is the ultimate 21st       century disease.

To get an idea of how much stress you’re under use a pen or pencil and tick each item in the box beside that applies to you. Check each event that has occurred in the last 18 months or feels like it is still affecting you, then add up the score and compare it to the reference sheet on the opposite side. Have a friend review your score, they see things you don’t. If an event is affecting you and is not listed, compare it to an event listed and give it a numeric value you feel fitting.

Death of a spouse or significant other 100
Divorce 73
Marital or “common-law” separation 65
Jail term or probation 63
Death of close family member other than spouse 63
Serious personal injury or illness 53
Marriage or establishing life partnership 50
Fired at work 47
Marital or relationship reconciliation 45
Retirement 45
Change in health of immediate family member 44
Pregnancy 40
Sex difficulties 39
Gain of new family member 39
Business readjustment 39
Change in financial state 38
  Death of a close friend 37
Change to different line of work 36
  Increase in number of  arguments 35
Mortgage or loan for major purchase 31
Foreclosure of mortgage or loan 30
Change in responsibilities at work 29
Son or daughter leaving home 29
Trouble with in-laws 29
Outstanding personal achievement 28
Partner begins or start works 26
  Begin or end school 26
Change in living conditions 25
Revision of personal habits (diet, exercise, smoking,) 24
Trouble with boss 23
Change in work hours or condition 20
Change in residence 20
Change in schools 20
Change in recreation 19
Change in social activities 19
Loan for smaller purchases 18
Change in sleeping habits 17
Change in number of family gatherings/commitments 16
Change in eating habits 15
Vacation 15
Holidays 13
  Minor violations of the law/tickets,fines, 13
Presently in Cold and raining season 12

In small doses, stress can be a good thing. It can give you the push you need, motivating you to do your best and to stay focused and alert. But when the going gets too tough and life’s demands exceed your ability to cope, stress becomes a threat to both your physical and emotional well-being

Stress Warning Signs and Symptoms

Psychological/Emotional symptoms

  moodiness   depression

  nervousness

  irritability

  lack of concentration

         memory problems          overreaction’s

        coping problems

        argumentative

        becoming withdrawn

 Inability to relax                  Indecisive

Seeing only the negative      Short tempered

Feeling overwhelmed          Feeling tense or on edge

Depression or general unhappiness

 

Physical/behavioral symptoms

high blood pressure chest pain

cold hands & feet

fatigue

sleep problems

sweaty palms

acne

       irregular heartbeat        reproductive problems

       headaches

       diarrhea

      More infections (cold, flu etc.)

      hair loss

      weight loss/weight gain

Headaches                     backaches

Loss of sex drive            Eating poorly or more or less

Overdoing activities       overreacting to problems

Procrastinating              isolating yourself from others

                                                                                                       Sleeping too much or too little

 

STRESS SCORES

What your numbers reveal

This scale shows the kind of life pressure that you are facing. Depending on your coping skills or the lack thereof, this scale can predict the likelihood that you will fall victim to a stress related illness or problem.

 

150 or less:  Low to moderate susceptibility to stress related illness or problems. You are doing pretty well. You’ve got low levels of stress. Keep it that way.

 

150 to 300 : Moderate to high susceptibility to stress related illness or problems. You’ve got some stressful things on your plate but it’s manageable. Find ways of keeping your stress levels from getting any higher.

 

300 or more: High susceptibility to stress-related illness or problems All righty then. You probably feel like you’re being toss about inside a washer machine. Think SERIOUSLY about seeking help to explore ways to reduce stress in your life. After thinking about it, do something about it.

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          CBT Counselling therapy and Clinical Hypnosis are medically recognized as a powerful tool for reducing stress.

 

     “Prolonged exposure to stress increases your risk of everything from heart disease, obesity, infections (colds, flu’s), anxiety, depression, relationship breakdown, fatigue and memory problems. Because of the widespread damage it can cause, it’s essential to learn how to deal with stress in a more positive way and reduce its impact on your daily life.”

Deirdre Rolfe

Clincial Hypnotherapist and Clinical Counsellor

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BOUNDARIES

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BOUNDARIES: A Minimum Maximum approach to total wellness

Imagine renting a house without doors or windows. I wonder how long it would take before you felt uneasy about it. Eventually… you might imagine…at some point…some undesirable effects may results from this lack of protection. Boundaries in your life are the windows and doors to your home.

I think it can be helpful to establish boundaries in terms of minimums and/or maximums. For instance, you may have a boundary that states you will work out three times per week at a minimum. The minimum is the boundary that defines what is considered “good enough” for your life. You can also set a maximum boundary around working out. This boundary might say that you will not work out more than five times per week – you will allow two days for rest.

The minimum and maximum boundaries protect you from patterns of perfectionism and procrastination.

If you go below your standard, you are not honoring what is important to you. If you go above your standard, it might mean you are placing unrealistic expectations on yourself. Boundaries are designed to protect you and the life that you want to live.

There are seven types of boundaries to consider:

Self-esteem Boundaries
Self-esteem boundaries protect your sense of worth. These boundaries help you feel good about you. What is the minimum you need to do to maintain self-respect? Perhaps you need to follow through on your promises, or maintain honesty in your life. What are the limits you need to set with yourself and other people to make sure your self-esteem is not compromised?

Body Boundaries

What do you need to do to protect your body? What physical limitations might you need to recognize? What standards need to be in place for you to protect your physical health? It could be that a certain minimum amount of exercise or a maximum amount of food or drink is required. It might mean you always honor regular health and dental appointments.

Energy Boundaries
Energy boundaries obviously protect the amount of physical and emotional energy you have to operate from. What energy drains in your life need to be eliminated or minimized? Which energy refuelers must be present to help you maintain the energy you need for your life?

Time Boundaries
Time is a precious commodity. Without the proper time boundaries, we lose something we can never get back. What non-negotiable boundaries must be in place to protect your time? What is the maximum amount of time you will spend on a particular activity, at a specific event, or engaging in work? Time management is all about having clear boundaries.

Space Boundaries
Our space includes any environment we spend time in. We need to protect our spaces so they nourish us and enable us to live our lives optimally. Space is making sure you have your have your own “stuff” to enjoy in your environment, your own special chair, or favorite cup. Pay attention to your needs for organization, cleanliness , quiet, or beauty in your environments. How do you know when your environment is “good enough”? What does the minimum and maximum state of your environments need to look like?

Money Boundaries
Just like time, we need money to survive in this life. Your money boundaries protect your finances. What are the limits you need to set on spending and saving? What is the minimum salary you are willing to work for? Consumer debt, for instance, is the result of unidentified or compromised boundaries.

Relationship Boundaries

What boundaries need to be in place to protect your relationships? Our relationships are truly our greatest gift in life. How much time do we need to spend to nurture our relationships? How much intimacy do you need to feel connected? What limits do we need to set on our behavior in relationships? Boundaries help ensure our relationships remain healthy.

Boundaries are essential to helping us identify who we are, what’s important to us and how we want to live our lives. Without them, other people will decide these things for us.

*Remember, no one can make you feel angry, anxious, unworthy, fat, stupid, incompetent, devalued, or rejected WITHOUT your permission.

 

Write down what you need in this exercise below:

 

Self-esteem Boundaries 

 

Body Boundaries 

 

Energy Boundaries

 

Time Boundaries

 

Space Boundaries
Money Boundaries

 

Relationship Boundaries

 

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

www.counselloroncall.com.au

 

How to create success Simply, POWERFULLY and FAST

This is a very powerful yet simple exercise to create strong mental shifts within your mind.Just because it appears simple however does not mean it is not a powerful and profound tehcnique….it is.Please note it is important you follow a few simple instructions to fully utilize the full effectiveness of this exercise, otherwise your conscious mind will dismiss its values and get in the way with its normal can’t shouldn’t won’t doubts etc.

Now everyone has an imagination, some of us are visualist, some of us are more feeling, whatever your strongest sense , trust me when I say you have an imagination.

So, very simply, find a place where you can sit comfortably with your eyes closed and just take a few deep breaths in just releasing, relaxing on each exhalation.

Now, I’d like you to vividly imagine your desired future, notice how you look, feel, act, think, dress, walk, talk and how people around you respond to you…as if you’ve already achieved it.

Now float back in your mind to the present time…slooooowly…and notice the steps you took to get there.

Now open your eyes and from this point forward ACT AS IF

ACT AS IF you have that job…dress as if…talk as if.Act as if you are super confident…dress as if , walk, talk as if.Act as if you are succesful, dress, walk, talk as if.

You see, the subconscious doesn’t know the difference between what is real or imagined…it takes what ever you give it.So give it what you want…AS IF…you’ve already got it….otherwise youre programming your mind for where you’re at and continue getting more ….or THAT.

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

www.counsellloroncall.com.au

Ho to get your mojo back?Designed for women but men can follow these rules too.

Did you know one fo the biggest complaints women commonly share is general malaise.Its not “depression” or chronic fatigue syndrome, or low libido, or menopause or just weight gain from overeating…although it could seem like all of these.No, its because you’ve lost your MOJO.

So how do did you lose it?

And more importantly , how do you find it?

Rule # 1

Stop making everyone in your life a priority over YOU

Think about it, if you really want to be a great Mom, Wife, friend or employee or business owner…then you need to take care of you first.That way everyone else gets the happy, positive, refreshed, real you, not the worn out, resentful, sleep deprived grumpy you.

Rule # 2

Get Moving

Nothing will make you feel more empowered, less stressed, happier, control your eating, and open your mind , faster , than exercise.Its the feel good pill you deserve.Crave endorphins not calories.

Sleep

Get enough sleep.A foogy irritable brain will make foggy irritable decisions creating foggy irritable moods which create foggy irritable actions which create foggy irratible over eating .So, take a warm lingering bath, have a hot cuddly drink, watch a spirit lifitng show on TV or curl up to a good book and get a good night’s sleep.

Sex

Yes , have more sex….its good for you.Why…well…let me give you just a few reasons why….

1.Our mental and emotional health balance is clearly influenced by sex. Abstinence is known to causea range from anxiety to paranoia and depression.In fact, in cases of depression,studies show, after having sex the brain releases endorphins, that decrease stress, inducing a state of euphoria, lifing mood. 

Intimacy

Kisiing, holding hands, cuddling are all releasing oxytocin

Cleaning up the clutter in our lives

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Cleaning Up the Clutter in Our Lives

Ever notice how as things get jumbled in your mind those loose papers, and little piles of “things” start to build up. Sometimes we put off alleviating the clutter until we are immersed in it. The more those things build up the more overwhelmed we become as our mind’s become over loaded and we just don’t know where to begin. Life becomes a juggling act as we are constantly running to catch up.

Our moods shift, we feel disoriented, we get foggy brain, gain weight, feel thrown off kilter, always trying to “catch” up on things, spending way more time looking for things than just getting things done. It becomes “contagious” a few drawers become an untidy car, and the more it affects how we feel, the more it can infiltrate into the way we dress, eat, act, think. Clutter IS a powerful metaphor in our lives.

If we wait until the clutter builds up , it can become a very disheartening and tedious experience.

The act of spring cleaning our homes, cars, offices, wardrobe and general environment can often be exactly what we need to have that fresh start.

 Clearing the way and ultimately clearing the mind…clearing our bodies…clearing our lives and work opportunities… for new things.

What are you holding on to that you can let go of in your own environment and within the caverns of your mind?

You may not be able to consciously “identify” any associations from your things to your mind as a lot of this exercise is actually releasing the kinesthetic release. That’s the “emotional” stuff you hold onto in your body. So in removing the clutter…chances are you won’t just THINK clearer…you will FEEL clearer…lighter…more optimistic.

If you find yourself a little overwhelmed, or indecisive or simply feeling stuck in a rut, chances are by clearing your environment you will clear the way in your mind to see a new path.

This is an opportunity for you to prepare your environment for the new seeds of growth you are ready to plant.

The purpose of this exercise is twofold. One is the clutter in our environment and the other is the clutter in our minds. Both situations can generate frustration, exhaustion and much more as we are constantly reminded of things we may or may not have been willing to let go of. They represent holdings on. They could represent nostalgia, memoirs, and laziness … different meanings for different people. Whatever your environment represents for you it’s important to recognize the metaphor as an outward representation of the inward experience.

EXERCISE:

Start with one room and divide the contents of your “things” into 3 piles,

A) Absolutely throw out

B) Maybe keep

C) Absolutely must keep

Once you’ve done that:

1)      Discard the outs

2)      Negotiate the maybes. Ask yourself;

“Have I worn it in over a year?”, or

“Do I use it or is there some emotional attachment to it?” “Do I just want it, or do I NEED it”

3)      Buy organizers (plastic containers, or boxes) to make your job easier.

You’ll be amazed how wonderful your mind, your body, your work ideas, your emotional wellness and ultimately your new outlook will be.

Deirdre Rolfe

Counselloroncall

Clinical Hypnotherapy

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The Monkey Trap:The art of letting GO

 

The Monkey Trap

 

 

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THE MONKEY TRAP

In Southeast Asia many years ago someone developed an ingenious method to catch monkeys alive and unharmed. The “Monkey Trap” which was developed was very simple; the hunter would take a coconut, carve a hole into it and place some dried fruit and nuts inside, then chain it to a tree. The heat of the day would cause the odors of the treats to attract monkeys to the delectable monkey treats. The monkey smells the treats and reaches inside the coconut and grabs onto the fruit and nuts, forming a tight fist. As the monkey attempts to extract the treat from the coconut, the monkey finds that their fist full of food will not fit through the narrow opening. The monkey excited and frustrated will scream as he continues to hold on to his food and attempts to remove it from the coconut. This is a sign for the hunter to walk over to the monkey and throw a net over to capture it. Even as the monkey sees the hunter approaching instead of letting go of the food the monkey holds on to the food tighter and tries even harder to dislodge it’s arm and fist of food from the coconut.

Of course you and I realize that to escape from the monkey hunter, the monkey simply had to let go of the food and it would have easily been able to slide her/his hand out of the coconut and freedom and an abundance of fruit and nuts was all around. All the monkey had to do was LET GO!

We humans would be smart enough to simply let go to gain our freedom, knowing we had other choices all around us…would we not?

Of course we would like to think that we are smart enough to let go of something to gain our freedom, however the truth is, many of hang on to things so tightly that we become fixated, limited, blinded, imprisoning ourselves, when all we have to do is be willing to let go to gain our freedom. To open up to a wealth of choices and opportunity all around us.

Letting go, the art of surrender is one of the hardest things we all face. It’s one of those things we think about, scrutinize over, get stuck in. The reality is, the hardest part is trusting to just do it, just let it go, and then you realized it was much easy than you imagined. Even better than that, is your vision broadens and you now have so much more right in front of you.

So today, take a moment to consider this story in your own life. What/who are you holding on to? Anger, an idea, a person, a negative thought or feeling or statement about yourself, a sense of powerlessness or limitation? What/who do you have a death grip on that you refuse to let go of? What would happen if you decided to let go? How good would it feel to free yourself from your personal “monkey trap”?

It is all up to you, you can decide right now, today to release your grip and walk away, be free!

What will you let go of today?

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

CounsellorOnCall

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What you FOCUS on…YOU CREATE.

 

What you focus on, you create.

The most important component of your mind, is what you focus on, you create.You see we all THINK we are freely, consciously responding to our lives.But the truth is, we are all functionals, responding to our inner programs, most of which we didn’t even design.From the time we are born our subconscious mind is imprinted with billions of bits of information processed through our senses of sight, sound, feeling/touch, taste and smell, filtered as we get older through our values, beliefs and cultural, environmental experiences.These programs become our actions, shape our thoughts, influence our feelings and become what we believe is our reality.Most of these programs you currently live by, are actually the statements, gestures, whispers,actions and reactions of people who helped shape your mind:parents,siblings,aunts,uncles,teachers,clergy,neighbours,strangers,culture,environment.They are even you programs, and yet we feel powerless, stuck on these old outdated 8-track programs that desperately need updating.But most of us don’t even know how to do that.

By the time my clients come to see me, they are frustrated from their own sense of powerlessness and cyclical trance state their lives are stuck on.Addicitons to smoking, over eating, gambling, emotional limitations like stagnant anger or powerlessness, or low self-esteem, anxiety or depression.Feelings of not being “allowed: to express their true selves, of feeling somehow disconnected to the life they feel is stuck in the ritual of mediocre.But here is a secret that’s so profound it’s simple.Within your grasp is the most incredibly powerful opportunity that will unlock this limitless potential in you giving you back the power to reprogram your mind for anything YOU want.This power is the key to how you work and how you can be in complete control of creating all the things you want.This key that unlocks your future is your FOCUS.See most people focus on the problem, not the solution.On the things they hate, those things that limit them or hold them back rather than the goal, or the things you are doing right, can continue to do well.

So, imagine in your hand is a powerful torch (flashlight) with a laser beam intensity.What you shine that light on becomes your range of focus.So let say you were walking down a dark alley and with your powerful torch you simply allowed it to shine on one specific area, which happened to be dirty rubbish covered with rats scurrying all about…if you left it at that your mind would be imprinted with the suggestion and belief that this alley was a dirty, rat infested place.But had you turned you light beam slighty to the left, perhaps you would have seen the night market , with all the curious vendors selling colourful wares.You see you controlled that, you chose to accept and not shine it elsewhere.

In order to reprogram your mind and create the programs that are right for you in your life.Shine that torch on your strenghts.What you can do, are doing, will continue to do.Shine your light on how good you feel making these changes, new choices and focus on all the benefits .As you redirect your focus, your redirect your thinking, as you redirect your thinking , you redirect your feelings, as you redirect your feelings, you redirect your actions.

The more you do this, you create what we call FLOODING.Flooding or repetition is what anchors or imprints your subconscious mind.

So today focus on what you want, what you can do to get what you want, the benefits of getting what you want as if you’ve already received them…and go out and buy yourself a torch.Keep it in your pocket or your purse and several times a day, feel it in your hand, look at it and let it remind you of its power and what it represents.

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist and Clinical Counsellor

www.counselloroncall.com.au