MINDSET

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What IS a MINDSET?

Both success and failure start in the MIND as a thought.Each thought then sets off a flood of electro-chemical energy in your physical brain.Your related mind-set then determines how you will evaluate and respond to that thought.

A mindset is a “mental tendency or habit”.Most of us get stuck here.Our mindsets lead us through life,for good or for bad.We just except it as part of who we are.Often feeling powerless to affect any of the changes we desire.However, our mindset tendencies or habits go much deeper.A mindset is really only the superficial level.Go deeper, and you will discover the actual source lies in your subconscious.

What is behind a limiting mindset?

Your mind-sets will either carry you forward or limit you.But whether positive or negative,mindsets are mental gates that have a very real physical reality in your brain.The gates take advantage of a natural tendency of your brain to favor the familiar – often called habits.

Our brains naturally establish neural pathways that direct our actions.If you have always driven a certain way to work, your brain will lay that out in your brain as a very stable neural network.Then when you get into your car to go to work, you don’t even need to think about where you are going. Your actions are automatic.

The same thing happens when you think a though of “starting a new business”.Your brain will immediately look for the most stable pre-existing “start of of new business” neural network and will direct your thoughts and actions along that path.It then connects with physical set points that create your ‘start a new business” mindset.

What are setponts?

Set-points are something .like gates that place limits on your thoughts and actions.If you had a painful failure when you once tried to “start a business” you will likely have a physical set-point that will try to save you from future failure and pain.These set points are embedded in emotionally charged neural networks that create your mindsets, and are  at the core of what you feel are your personal limitations.

Improve your potential.

To build a true success mind-set , your need to dive in and remodel the set-points built into your subconscious mind.You could spend years in counselling to do this, but there is a much faster far more enjoyable way…HYPNOSIS.

OK then, so what is a thought?

On the level of your mind, a thought is basically energy that cause an electro-chemical response in your brain.The net result is that your brain’s neurons then fire in a certain pattern.That produces tiny currents of electrical energy that pass along definite pathways.These currents can be traced as “brain waves” by attaching electrode to your skull and attaching the electrodes to an EEG.

Your Brain  actually produces between 5 and 10 volts of brain wave energy-enough to light up the inside of a refrigerator.

The electrical current produced by your thought is then broadcast in  the form of electromagnetic brain waves to each of your cells-and also straight out into your environment.

So what does THAT say about your mind’s limitless potential?

YOUR SUCCESS OR FAILURE IN ANY ASPECT OF LIFE IS NOT RANDOM OR ACCIDENTAL.IT IS THE DIRECT RESULT OF BELIEFS AND EXPECTATIONS STORED IN YOUR DEEP MIND.

Your mind’s set points are not based on your true mind power, physical or success potentials.They are experience based memories that have become set into your brain’s neural networks so solidly that they have becomes beliefs.

And even your beliefs are NOT what you think.They are seldom accurate and can be totally false and do NOT necessary serve you at all.They may actually be trapping you in a limited reality that does NOT reflect who you can be..

QUESTION

Is your reality reflecting the brain you want….or the brain you have?

HYPNOSIS WORKS

Deirdre Rolfe

http://www.counselloroncall.com.au

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Kinesthetic emotions

Kinesthetic is one of the forms of processing we use to filter information we receive from he world around us. Kinesthetic is the feeling, emotive, sensing and physical processing of information.And although the other processing pathways; visual and auditory are as powerful at the actual point of absorption, I have witnessed in my Therapeutic practice and experienced within myself a deeper resonance that is felt and symptomatically reactive from a physical body level.

Consider grief, anxiety, depression, PTSD, childhood abuse,unexpressed tears,voice,thoughts,emotions,and how they can become trapped. CBT or talk therapy helps to  alleviates the head stuff…allows one to intellectualize and get to the understandings , reframes, gives topical solutions.But you can reach a point where Over talking, over analyzing can actually be harmful…perpetuating that loop of incessant memories…or recalling a story you live by…are stuck in…creating a reality you don’t necessarily want to be stuck in any longer.However there are deeper pits, wounds that can only be release in the same way they got in….kinestetically.

Physical movement through dance, exercise,running, yoga, breath work, sound through music or no sound at all,being physically warm, blanketed, comforted, warm soothing drinks, walks in cool air, sitting by the beach, getting a massage, having a long soothing bubble bath.

As you learn to micromanage and release the built up “tensions” you’ve become so accustomed to ignoring…the signals to alert you that you are out of balance: anxiety, depression, sleeplessness, weight gain…diminish.

Find ways to release….and you will allow your body to reset to its calmer state of equilibrium.

 

Deirdre Rolfe M.T.C.

CounsellorOnCall

http://www.counselloroncall.com.au

http://www.hypnosislapband.com.au

 

My life plan

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Imagine , in the future, your old 90 year old self, looking back, to now….how do you want to be remembered?

How do you want to be remembered in self ; your values, beliefs, what mattered to you, what you did, how you contributed.

As a Partner? Did you love, were you married, for how long , what did you do that was amazing for your partner, for love???

And children” Did you have any…what was amazing about them and why.What was your relationship like with them?

Follow all the areas of your life as prompted below and write down the answers from your 90 year old self’s perspective.

This is your life Plan….keep it…and re-read it every year to measure how you’re doing…the insights will astound you.

List each category you’ve chosen for  your life chart and answer this question for each one.

How do you want to be remembered by the following?

Self, Partnership, children, family, Love,friends, career, community, Life’s purpose,life’s contribution

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

http://www.counselloroncall.com.au

http://www.hypnosislapband.com.au

Your 9 Needs

 

 

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The Nine Needs:

We all have basic human needs in order to feel in balance in our lives.On a seperate pice of paper write down your hieracrcy of needs in order of importance to have a sense of where to begin working on what you need for you in your life now.Write these needs in tiers of “3” from the first colum being most important, to the 3 in middle being of medium importance and the final 3 being  the least important.This will give you a visual “map” to follow allowing you to ascertain if you are adressing the right needs in order of theri importance.

You may also chose to individualize these needs to suit you by adding your own version of what each need means to you.This will giv eenv further clarity to what you need in order to feel fulfilled.

Security

Security is the need to feel safe, to feel assured that they know what is going to happen, to know ahead of time what the plans are.

Adventure

Adventure is the need for an adrenaline rush, to have new experiences, to travel, to have BIG experiences. To discover and be curious.

Freedom

Freedom is the need for independence and spontaneity. It is also the need to have choices and to feel in control of making those choices. To have your own space.

Love

Love, nourishment, touch, connectivity of self and with others, authenticity, self love.

Power

People with a need for Power need to be in a position of authority and responsibility.

Health

Inner strength, longevity, energy overall wellness,

Acceptance

Acceptance is the need to accept yourself and be accepted by others. 

Community

People with a need for Community like to feel they are contributing to their community; making a difference.

Expression

Expression is the need to be artistic, to be seen, to be heard, to be felt. It is the need to express oneself through words, speech, actions, dress, art and self-creations of all types.

Enjoy 🙂

Deirdre Rolfe M.T.C.

Clinical Counsellor & Clinical Hypnotherapist

www.counselloroncall.com.au

www.hypnosislapband.com.au

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BOUNDARIES

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BOUNDARIES: A Minimum Maximum approach to total wellness

Imagine renting a house without doors or windows. I wonder how long it would take before you felt uneasy about it. Eventually… you might imagine…at some point…some undesirable effects may results from this lack of protection. Boundaries in your life are the windows and doors to your home.

I think it can be helpful to establish boundaries in terms of minimums and/or maximums. For instance, you may have a boundary that states you will work out three times per week at a minimum. The minimum is the boundary that defines what is considered “good enough” for your life. You can also set a maximum boundary around working out. This boundary might say that you will not work out more than five times per week – you will allow two days for rest.

The minimum and maximum boundaries protect you from patterns of perfectionism and procrastination.

If you go below your standard, you are not honoring what is important to you. If you go above your standard, it might mean you are placing unrealistic expectations on yourself. Boundaries are designed to protect you and the life that you want to live.

There are seven types of boundaries to consider:

Self-esteem Boundaries
Self-esteem boundaries protect your sense of worth. These boundaries help you feel good about you. What is the minimum you need to do to maintain self-respect? Perhaps you need to follow through on your promises, or maintain honesty in your life. What are the limits you need to set with yourself and other people to make sure your self-esteem is not compromised?

Body Boundaries

What do you need to do to protect your body? What physical limitations might you need to recognize? What standards need to be in place for you to protect your physical health? It could be that a certain minimum amount of exercise or a maximum amount of food or drink is required. It might mean you always honor regular health and dental appointments.

Energy Boundaries
Energy boundaries obviously protect the amount of physical and emotional energy you have to operate from. What energy drains in your life need to be eliminated or minimized? Which energy refuelers must be present to help you maintain the energy you need for your life?

Time Boundaries
Time is a precious commodity. Without the proper time boundaries, we lose something we can never get back. What non-negotiable boundaries must be in place to protect your time? What is the maximum amount of time you will spend on a particular activity, at a specific event, or engaging in work? Time management is all about having clear boundaries.

Space Boundaries
Our space includes any environment we spend time in. We need to protect our spaces so they nourish us and enable us to live our lives optimally. Space is making sure you have your have your own “stuff” to enjoy in your environment, your own special chair, or favorite cup. Pay attention to your needs for organization, cleanliness , quiet, or beauty in your environments. How do you know when your environment is “good enough”? What does the minimum and maximum state of your environments need to look like?

Money Boundaries
Just like time, we need money to survive in this life. Your money boundaries protect your finances. What are the limits you need to set on spending and saving? What is the minimum salary you are willing to work for? Consumer debt, for instance, is the result of unidentified or compromised boundaries.

Relationship Boundaries

What boundaries need to be in place to protect your relationships? Our relationships are truly our greatest gift in life. How much time do we need to spend to nurture our relationships? How much intimacy do you need to feel connected? What limits do we need to set on our behavior in relationships? Boundaries help ensure our relationships remain healthy.

Boundaries are essential to helping us identify who we are, what’s important to us and how we want to live our lives. Without them, other people will decide these things for us.

*Remember, no one can make you feel angry, anxious, unworthy, fat, stupid, incompetent, devalued, or rejected WITHOUT your permission.

 

Write down what you need in this exercise below:

 

Self-esteem Boundaries 

 

Body Boundaries 

 

Energy Boundaries

 

Time Boundaries

 

Space Boundaries
Money Boundaries

 

Relationship Boundaries

 

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

www.counselloroncall.com.au

 

How to create success Simply, POWERFULLY and FAST

This is a very powerful yet simple exercise to create strong mental shifts within your mind.Just because it appears simple however does not mean it is not a powerful and profound tehcnique….it is.Please note it is important you follow a few simple instructions to fully utilize the full effectiveness of this exercise, otherwise your conscious mind will dismiss its values and get in the way with its normal can’t shouldn’t won’t doubts etc.

Now everyone has an imagination, some of us are visualist, some of us are more feeling, whatever your strongest sense , trust me when I say you have an imagination.

So, very simply, find a place where you can sit comfortably with your eyes closed and just take a few deep breaths in just releasing, relaxing on each exhalation.

Now, I’d like you to vividly imagine your desired future, notice how you look, feel, act, think, dress, walk, talk and how people around you respond to you…as if you’ve already achieved it.

Now float back in your mind to the present time…slooooowly…and notice the steps you took to get there.

Now open your eyes and from this point forward ACT AS IF

ACT AS IF you have that job…dress as if…talk as if.Act as if you are super confident…dress as if , walk, talk as if.Act as if you are succesful, dress, walk, talk as if.

You see, the subconscious doesn’t know the difference between what is real or imagined…it takes what ever you give it.So give it what you want…AS IF…you’ve already got it….otherwise youre programming your mind for where you’re at and continue getting more ….or THAT.

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

www.counsellloroncall.com.au