MINDSET

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What IS a MINDSET?

Both success and failure start in the MIND as a thought.Each thought then sets off a flood of electro-chemical energy in your physical brain.Your related mind-set then determines how you will evaluate and respond to that thought.

A mindset is a “mental tendency or habit”.Most of us get stuck here.Our mindsets lead us through life,for good or for bad.We just except it as part of who we are.Often feeling powerless to affect any of the changes we desire.However, our mindset tendencies or habits go much deeper.A mindset is really only the superficial level.Go deeper, and you will discover the actual source lies in your subconscious.

What is behind a limiting mindset?

Your mind-sets will either carry you forward or limit you.But whether positive or negative,mindsets are mental gates that have a very real physical reality in your brain.The gates take advantage of a natural tendency of your brain to favor the familiar – often called habits.

Our brains naturally establish neural pathways that direct our actions.If you have always driven a certain way to work, your brain will lay that out in your brain as a very stable neural network.Then when you get into your car to go to work, you don’t even need to think about where you are going. Your actions are automatic.

The same thing happens when you think a though of “starting a new business”.Your brain will immediately look for the most stable pre-existing “start of of new business” neural network and will direct your thoughts and actions along that path.It then connects with physical set points that create your ‘start a new business” mindset.

What are setponts?

Set-points are something .like gates that place limits on your thoughts and actions.If you had a painful failure when you once tried to “start a business” you will likely have a physical set-point that will try to save you from future failure and pain.These set points are embedded in emotionally charged neural networks that create your mindsets, and are  at the core of what you feel are your personal limitations.

Improve your potential.

To build a true success mind-set , your need to dive in and remodel the set-points built into your subconscious mind.You could spend years in counselling to do this, but there is a much faster far more enjoyable way…HYPNOSIS.

OK then, so what is a thought?

On the level of your mind, a thought is basically energy that cause an electro-chemical response in your brain.The net result is that your brain’s neurons then fire in a certain pattern.That produces tiny currents of electrical energy that pass along definite pathways.These currents can be traced as “brain waves” by attaching electrode to your skull and attaching the electrodes to an EEG.

Your Brain  actually produces between 5 and 10 volts of brain wave energy-enough to light up the inside of a refrigerator.

The electrical current produced by your thought is then broadcast in  the form of electromagnetic brain waves to each of your cells-and also straight out into your environment.

So what does THAT say about your mind’s limitless potential?

YOUR SUCCESS OR FAILURE IN ANY ASPECT OF LIFE IS NOT RANDOM OR ACCIDENTAL.IT IS THE DIRECT RESULT OF BELIEFS AND EXPECTATIONS STORED IN YOUR DEEP MIND.

Your mind’s set points are not based on your true mind power, physical or success potentials.They are experience based memories that have become set into your brain’s neural networks so solidly that they have becomes beliefs.

And even your beliefs are NOT what you think.They are seldom accurate and can be totally false and do NOT necessary serve you at all.They may actually be trapping you in a limited reality that does NOT reflect who you can be..

QUESTION

Is your reality reflecting the brain you want….or the brain you have?

HYPNOSIS WORKS

Deirdre Rolfe

http://www.counselloroncall.com.au

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My life plan

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Imagine , in the future, your old 90 year old self, looking back, to now….how do you want to be remembered?

How do you want to be remembered in self ; your values, beliefs, what mattered to you, what you did, how you contributed.

As a Partner? Did you love, were you married, for how long , what did you do that was amazing for your partner, for love???

And children” Did you have any…what was amazing about them and why.What was your relationship like with them?

Follow all the areas of your life as prompted below and write down the answers from your 90 year old self’s perspective.

This is your life Plan….keep it…and re-read it every year to measure how you’re doing…the insights will astound you.

List each category you’ve chosen for  your life chart and answer this question for each one.

How do you want to be remembered by the following?

Self, Partnership, children, family, Love,friends, career, community, Life’s purpose,life’s contribution

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

http://www.counselloroncall.com.au

http://www.hypnosislapband.com.au

THE POWER OF THOUGHT

 

 

THE POWER OF THOUGHT

 

Deirdre Rolfe

 

June 7 2006

 

Few people stop to explore what they think and why they think the way they do. Do you know what you think about? Do you know why you think the way you do? Do you realize just how much your life is affected by the way you think? How what you think affects what you perceive and what you perceive affects how you behave. So how do you think…what are your thoughts?

 

 The answer is revealed by the life you lead. Take the time right now…to just reflect on your life…looking from the outside in. How does it look?

 

Is your life happy, fulfilling, adventuresome, meaningful and successful? If it is, you are probably thinking thoughts of happiness, hope, positivity, possibility, and choice. If however, you are wading through an endless stream of problems and finding life painful to bear, perhaps it is caused by thoughts of doubt, failure, anger, helplessness, resentment, feelings of incompetence, and pain. In other words, be aware that your thoughts have power…the power to create a self-fulfilling reality, to direct your life. Whether you think life is miserable or great, you’re correct, for life is whatever you think it is.

 

The hardest lessons for any of us to reach are to fully realize that the thoughts we have and the life we live is all a matter of CHOICE. Now I’m not saying that everything that happens in our life is “our” choice, but how you”choose” to perceive it “is”. We have within all of us the ability to choose to live happily and successfully or not! Having said that it raises the question why would someone choose to be miserable…but the truth is…there is a payoff in being the victim. If we make everyone else responsible for our miserable existence, than we don’t have to be. So one can say they didn’t get the job they wanted…or haven’t met the right person…or didn’t finish school…or didn’t lose weight…or never travelled to their favourite country…or never became a professional career person…because of someone else’s influence.

 

Now, I’m not talking about what you couldn’t do as a child. Children aren’t able to create their own lives due to the nature of being dependent.But…once we are adults we no longer have to live the life given to us…we can now live the life we choose.

 

And what about bad relationships that require you to stay plugged in for the kids but keep you in perpetual states of unhappiness. Is that really a choice made for the benefit of the children? Are they really happiest with two unhappy parents?

 

What about toxic family members that just constantly require attention and take from us never giving, and generate a negative web we feel trapped in. Is that the other person’s fault…or are you choosing to allow that person to affect your life. Dr Phil says “There are no victims…only volunteers”.

 

 In life all things have their opposites…the Ying and Yang…the light and the dark…the positive and the negative…its all there…constantly around us…and we can choose to focus on either perspective depending on our thoughts. Our thoughts are the measure of the glass half-full or the glass half-empty.

 

The power…our true greatest power…is the awareness we receive when we take responsibility for our thoughts and re-shape them to create the life we want. To remove ourselves from the life we have right now. To step outside that life and have a good look. Decide if this is really what you want or if you want more. And if you want more, what is it you want. What are the things you want to bring into your life? Then believe you can have them…and make them happen.

 

Negativity breeds negativity…positivity breeds positivity…its classic quantum physics.

 

Challenge your thoughts. Don’t allow excuses, or negative thoughts to create obstacles on your path .Take a zero tolerance approach to your life and do it NOW!

Deirdre Rolfe M.T.C.

www.counselloroncall.com.au

www.hypnosislapband.com.au

 

 

Its all Perspective

Life is a matter of PERSPECTIVE

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THE ELEPHANT AND THE BLIND MEN
John Godfrey Saxe’s ( 1816-1887) version of the famous Indian legend,

It was six men of Indostan
To learning much inclined,
Who went to see the Elephant
(Though all of them were blind),
That each by observation
Might satisfy his mind.

The First approach’d the Elephant,
And happening to fall
Against his broad and sturdy side,
At once began to bawl:
“God bless me! but the Elephant
Is very like a wall!”

The Second, feeling of the tusk,
Cried, -“Ho! what have we here
So very round and smooth and sharp?
To me ’tis mighty clear
This wonder of an Elephant
Is very like a spear!”

The Third approached the animal,
And happening to take
The squirming trunk within his hands,
Thus boldly up and spake:
“I see,” quoth he, “the Elephant
Is very like a snake!”

The Fourth reached out his eager hand,
And felt about the knee.
“What most this wondrous beast is like
Is mighty plain,” quoth he,
“‘Tis clear enough the Elephant
Is very like a tree!”

The Fifth, who chanced to touch the ear,
Said: “E’en the blindest man
Can tell what this resembles most;
Deny the fact who can,
This marvel of an Elephant
Is very like a fan!”

The Sixth no sooner had begun
About the beast to grope,
Then, seizing on the swinging tail
That fell within his scope,
“I see,” quoth he, “the Elephant
Is very like a rope!”

And so these men of Indostan
Disputed loud and long,
Each in his own opinion
Exceeding stiff and strong,
Though each was partly in the right,
And all were in the wrong!

This poem beautifully illustrates how our reality is simply what we perceive from our point of reference. So often we get caught in defending our need to be right based on where we are standing. Yet this point illustrate how another’s person’s viewpoint can be equally right…just a “different” perspective…neither wrong nor right.

And freedom can be gained from recognizing we are all right and all wrong.

It also shows us we don’t’ have to be stuck in our realities…that change can occur by stepping to the right or left and viewing the situation from another perspective in order to find a different approach or feeling towards it.

 I wonder in what area of your life  are you unable to see the whole picture?Suppose you look at it from another perspective?Perhaps the answers are right in front of you afterall.

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotist and Clinical Counsellor

CounsellorOnCall

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Cleaning up the clutter in our lives

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Cleaning Up the Clutter in Our Lives

Ever notice how as things get jumbled in your mind those loose papers, and little piles of “things” start to build up. Sometimes we put off alleviating the clutter until we are immersed in it. The more those things build up the more overwhelmed we become as our mind’s become over loaded and we just don’t know where to begin. Life becomes a juggling act as we are constantly running to catch up.

Our moods shift, we feel disoriented, we get foggy brain, gain weight, feel thrown off kilter, always trying to “catch” up on things, spending way more time looking for things than just getting things done. It becomes “contagious” a few drawers become an untidy car, and the more it affects how we feel, the more it can infiltrate into the way we dress, eat, act, think. Clutter IS a powerful metaphor in our lives.

If we wait until the clutter builds up , it can become a very disheartening and tedious experience.

The act of spring cleaning our homes, cars, offices, wardrobe and general environment can often be exactly what we need to have that fresh start.

 Clearing the way and ultimately clearing the mind…clearing our bodies…clearing our lives and work opportunities… for new things.

What are you holding on to that you can let go of in your own environment and within the caverns of your mind?

You may not be able to consciously “identify” any associations from your things to your mind as a lot of this exercise is actually releasing the kinesthetic release. That’s the “emotional” stuff you hold onto in your body. So in removing the clutter…chances are you won’t just THINK clearer…you will FEEL clearer…lighter…more optimistic.

If you find yourself a little overwhelmed, or indecisive or simply feeling stuck in a rut, chances are by clearing your environment you will clear the way in your mind to see a new path.

This is an opportunity for you to prepare your environment for the new seeds of growth you are ready to plant.

The purpose of this exercise is twofold. One is the clutter in our environment and the other is the clutter in our minds. Both situations can generate frustration, exhaustion and much more as we are constantly reminded of things we may or may not have been willing to let go of. They represent holdings on. They could represent nostalgia, memoirs, and laziness … different meanings for different people. Whatever your environment represents for you it’s important to recognize the metaphor as an outward representation of the inward experience.

EXERCISE:

Start with one room and divide the contents of your “things” into 3 piles,

A) Absolutely throw out

B) Maybe keep

C) Absolutely must keep

Once you’ve done that:

1)      Discard the outs

2)      Negotiate the maybes. Ask yourself;

“Have I worn it in over a year?”, or

“Do I use it or is there some emotional attachment to it?” “Do I just want it, or do I NEED it”

3)      Buy organizers (plastic containers, or boxes) to make your job easier.

You’ll be amazed how wonderful your mind, your body, your work ideas, your emotional wellness and ultimately your new outlook will be.

Deirdre Rolfe

Counselloroncall

Clinical Hypnotherapy

www.counsellorncall.com.au

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What you FOCUS on…YOU CREATE.

 

What you focus on, you create.

The most important component of your mind, is what you focus on, you create.You see we all THINK we are freely, consciously responding to our lives.But the truth is, we are all functionals, responding to our inner programs, most of which we didn’t even design.From the time we are born our subconscious mind is imprinted with billions of bits of information processed through our senses of sight, sound, feeling/touch, taste and smell, filtered as we get older through our values, beliefs and cultural, environmental experiences.These programs become our actions, shape our thoughts, influence our feelings and become what we believe is our reality.Most of these programs you currently live by, are actually the statements, gestures, whispers,actions and reactions of people who helped shape your mind:parents,siblings,aunts,uncles,teachers,clergy,neighbours,strangers,culture,environment.They are even you programs, and yet we feel powerless, stuck on these old outdated 8-track programs that desperately need updating.But most of us don’t even know how to do that.

By the time my clients come to see me, they are frustrated from their own sense of powerlessness and cyclical trance state their lives are stuck on.Addicitons to smoking, over eating, gambling, emotional limitations like stagnant anger or powerlessness, or low self-esteem, anxiety or depression.Feelings of not being “allowed: to express their true selves, of feeling somehow disconnected to the life they feel is stuck in the ritual of mediocre.But here is a secret that’s so profound it’s simple.Within your grasp is the most incredibly powerful opportunity that will unlock this limitless potential in you giving you back the power to reprogram your mind for anything YOU want.This power is the key to how you work and how you can be in complete control of creating all the things you want.This key that unlocks your future is your FOCUS.See most people focus on the problem, not the solution.On the things they hate, those things that limit them or hold them back rather than the goal, or the things you are doing right, can continue to do well.

So, imagine in your hand is a powerful torch (flashlight) with a laser beam intensity.What you shine that light on becomes your range of focus.So let say you were walking down a dark alley and with your powerful torch you simply allowed it to shine on one specific area, which happened to be dirty rubbish covered with rats scurrying all about…if you left it at that your mind would be imprinted with the suggestion and belief that this alley was a dirty, rat infested place.But had you turned you light beam slighty to the left, perhaps you would have seen the night market , with all the curious vendors selling colourful wares.You see you controlled that, you chose to accept and not shine it elsewhere.

In order to reprogram your mind and create the programs that are right for you in your life.Shine that torch on your strenghts.What you can do, are doing, will continue to do.Shine your light on how good you feel making these changes, new choices and focus on all the benefits .As you redirect your focus, your redirect your thinking, as you redirect your thinking , you redirect your feelings, as you redirect your feelings, you redirect your actions.

The more you do this, you create what we call FLOODING.Flooding or repetition is what anchors or imprints your subconscious mind.

So today focus on what you want, what you can do to get what you want, the benefits of getting what you want as if you’ve already received them…and go out and buy yourself a torch.Keep it in your pocket or your purse and several times a day, feel it in your hand, look at it and let it remind you of its power and what it represents.

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist and Clinical Counsellor

www.counselloroncall.com.au