The miracle PILL

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What if there was a pill that you could take daily, that would give you an instant energy boost, make you feel better about yourself, infuse confidence, de-stress you, calm your nerves, make your mind sharper, clearer, keep you lean, fit,help regulate your emotions and create overall emotional well being. Would you buy it?Would you take it daily?

Well you can…and this pill could be your new drug of choice…and whats even better is this drug is all natural.And what if I told you unlike most drugs that lose their effectiveness over time , this drug gets stronger.And what if I told you this drug is instant and has lingering long-term effects.

So do you want to know what it is?

EXERCISE.

Yup….that dreaded word is actually your feel good cure to most things that ail you.In fact I tell all my clients if I had a prescription pad I’d be writing EXERCISE 5xs per week or more.Exercise boots those natural chemicals in your body and helps regulate them. Endorphins, serotonin,Dopamine, all that good stuff that keeps your mind, your emotions, your hormones, your inner chemistry, your physical health , in check.And yet…most people ignore its power.

Its easier to turn to cigarettes , drinking, gambling,drugs, excessive shopping, or over eating…right?Wrong! In fact the same formula you used to get “addicted” to those sabotaging behaviors is the same formula you can use to redirect your new drug of choice toward EXERCISE

YES you can CRAVE exercise .

All you need to do is :
Make a decision to change
Dont think…just do it (get up, get dressed, get out the door and look forward to embracing the fresh air and walk…and oh by the way since you are there already walk/run…and when the last thing you feel like doing is walking another minute…add five more.)
Focus on the feel good endorphin , the dopamine the serotonin you get at the end…your feel good daily pill that keeps you OK

The more you do this…the more you crave doing this…the more you exercise and FOCUS On the rewards…the more you crave it.

Grief, depression, stress, anxiety, frustrations….unexpressed parts of you…get trapped in your body….if you dont’ release them, they stagnant turning into chronic depression, generalized anxiety,general malaise, perpetuating a cycle of feeling dis empowered in yourself.

The TRUTH however, is that you possess something very powerful within you…right now…its your MIND.And you can control your mind creating incredible shifts of change, instantly…once you understand the FORMULA and how to direct it…harness its true power.
Ill write more on your mind…or check out my site at http://www.counselloroncall.com.au

But for today….right now…crave exercise…move more each and every day
Dont think…just do it…focused on how great it feels to get fresh air…focused on the rewards…focused on taking that feel good pill each and everyday…the more you move…the better you will feel…the more in control of you , you become.

Celebrate your greatness

Deirdre Rolfe M.T.C.
Clinical Hypnotherapist and Clinical Counsellor
http://www.counselloroncall.com.au
http://www.hypnosislapband.com.au

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My life plan

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Imagine , in the future, your old 90 year old self, looking back, to now….how do you want to be remembered?

How do you want to be remembered in self ; your values, beliefs, what mattered to you, what you did, how you contributed.

As a Partner? Did you love, were you married, for how long , what did you do that was amazing for your partner, for love???

And children” Did you have any…what was amazing about them and why.What was your relationship like with them?

Follow all the areas of your life as prompted below and write down the answers from your 90 year old self’s perspective.

This is your life Plan….keep it…and re-read it every year to measure how you’re doing…the insights will astound you.

List each category you’ve chosen for  your life chart and answer this question for each one.

How do you want to be remembered by the following?

Self, Partnership, children, family, Love,friends, career, community, Life’s purpose,life’s contribution

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist

http://www.counselloroncall.com.au

http://www.hypnosislapband.com.au

THE POWER OF THOUGHT

 

 

THE POWER OF THOUGHT

 

Deirdre Rolfe

 

June 7 2006

 

Few people stop to explore what they think and why they think the way they do. Do you know what you think about? Do you know why you think the way you do? Do you realize just how much your life is affected by the way you think? How what you think affects what you perceive and what you perceive affects how you behave. So how do you think…what are your thoughts?

 

 The answer is revealed by the life you lead. Take the time right now…to just reflect on your life…looking from the outside in. How does it look?

 

Is your life happy, fulfilling, adventuresome, meaningful and successful? If it is, you are probably thinking thoughts of happiness, hope, positivity, possibility, and choice. If however, you are wading through an endless stream of problems and finding life painful to bear, perhaps it is caused by thoughts of doubt, failure, anger, helplessness, resentment, feelings of incompetence, and pain. In other words, be aware that your thoughts have power…the power to create a self-fulfilling reality, to direct your life. Whether you think life is miserable or great, you’re correct, for life is whatever you think it is.

 

The hardest lessons for any of us to reach are to fully realize that the thoughts we have and the life we live is all a matter of CHOICE. Now I’m not saying that everything that happens in our life is “our” choice, but how you”choose” to perceive it “is”. We have within all of us the ability to choose to live happily and successfully or not! Having said that it raises the question why would someone choose to be miserable…but the truth is…there is a payoff in being the victim. If we make everyone else responsible for our miserable existence, than we don’t have to be. So one can say they didn’t get the job they wanted…or haven’t met the right person…or didn’t finish school…or didn’t lose weight…or never travelled to their favourite country…or never became a professional career person…because of someone else’s influence.

 

Now, I’m not talking about what you couldn’t do as a child. Children aren’t able to create their own lives due to the nature of being dependent.But…once we are adults we no longer have to live the life given to us…we can now live the life we choose.

 

And what about bad relationships that require you to stay plugged in for the kids but keep you in perpetual states of unhappiness. Is that really a choice made for the benefit of the children? Are they really happiest with two unhappy parents?

 

What about toxic family members that just constantly require attention and take from us never giving, and generate a negative web we feel trapped in. Is that the other person’s fault…or are you choosing to allow that person to affect your life. Dr Phil says “There are no victims…only volunteers”.

 

 In life all things have their opposites…the Ying and Yang…the light and the dark…the positive and the negative…its all there…constantly around us…and we can choose to focus on either perspective depending on our thoughts. Our thoughts are the measure of the glass half-full or the glass half-empty.

 

The power…our true greatest power…is the awareness we receive when we take responsibility for our thoughts and re-shape them to create the life we want. To remove ourselves from the life we have right now. To step outside that life and have a good look. Decide if this is really what you want or if you want more. And if you want more, what is it you want. What are the things you want to bring into your life? Then believe you can have them…and make them happen.

 

Negativity breeds negativity…positivity breeds positivity…its classic quantum physics.

 

Challenge your thoughts. Don’t allow excuses, or negative thoughts to create obstacles on your path .Take a zero tolerance approach to your life and do it NOW!

Deirdre Rolfe M.T.C.

www.counselloroncall.com.au

www.hypnosislapband.com.au

 

 

Colour Psychology

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Colour Psychology

Never underestimate the power of colour , or lack of, in your life.There have been numerous studies that prove colour’s powerful effect.In fact in several states in the U.S., prisons have issued PINK only uniforms to their prisoners in a means to subdue them, and it works.In fact the Psychology of colour is now a very important factor in marketing, in business , in public speaking, based on its unconscious reaction it provokes.Restaurants used RED to stimulate hunger, spas use light green or blues, Psychiatric hospitals use soft pinks or greens.

So I wonder how your clothes and the colours you wear affect your emotional state and also how people respond to you.

Let say you have an important job interview…wear red is bold and filled with energy, but for a circumstance like this, it might come across as too arrogant, headstrong.Best colours for a job interview are shirt in blue and white…showing intelligence (blue) and trust (white), mixed with a blue suit.Brown is also good to denote a conservative, calm approach, for woman a green dress shows you’re keen, blue (intelligence, sharp) and so on.

In a consulting room, splashes of red can increase attention and stimulate the excitement of the work you do, show a sharpness…but not too much.

On a date is where colour can really be fun…depending on your mood and what you want to convey red is definitely a power statement.Bold, confident, energized…green, calm, easy-going, trustworthy, blue sharp, clean, intelligent, brown classic, conservative, yellow a bit alternative, happy-go-lucky, .

Refer to the chart above and colour code your life.

Going for a run, feeling tired…definately wear RED .

enjoy

Deirdre Rolfe

www.counselloroncall.com.au

www.hypnosislapband.com.au

www.counselloroncall.wordpress.com

Success is a journey not a destination:The only failure is when you QUIT

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Famous people that almost quit

How do you measure success? Is it a certain amount of money? Is it the person who has the biggest muscle or that ripped 6 pack? Is it the person who drives the Mercedes, owns a large home, a yacht? How is success measured? You’ve all heard the saying “It’s the journey not the destination” Well, I believe this is the true measure of success. What I think success is for me is having healthy beautiful children, enjoying a wonderful relationship with them, having grandkids, a loving partner, a beautiful home, an amazing cabin in the woods, pets I love, a business I’m passionate about, giving back to others as a means of paying it forward, hard work ethics, love, health, the gift of being alive, freedom, intelligence, expression, gratitude …all of these things are how I measure success and I feel overly abundant in my life…even if my car is an old , outdated worn out junk…because I don’t care…it gets me where I need to go…and I feel rich and successful in those areas that matter.

But I’m not saying my way is the right way. It’s a personal thing, other’s measure success very differently, and that’s ok. But what’s’ important and what we all need to agree with, it whatever your passions, whatever your focus, success comes from the continuation of doing….action…just keep on keeping on. Because that takes guts, that takes heart and perseverance and ultimately that is the real pathway toward success.

We tend to think everyone else just got there easily …that they are just really lucky. But most successful people have the same fears, the same doubts, the same frustrations and rejections. Most successful people know what it’s like to be broke, drive a crap car, but the difference between those that succeed and those that don’t…is they kept on going….they felt like stopping, 1000s of times, but they kept on going. It’s the doing when it’s the last thing you feel like doing that helps you push past those final corners, jump those hurdles and gain the discipline and momentum you need, for success.

Just to prove my point I’ve added several famous successful people’s storied below let it inspire you, let it motivate you to keep going.

We all feel the struggles, we all have those doubts, we all feel those fears…keep ploughing through anyways.

As my wise Mom always said to me “The sun always comes out from behind the clouds”

 

F. W. Woolworth: Some may not know this name today, but Woolworth was once one of the biggest names in department stores in the U.S. Before starting his own business, young Woolworth worked at a dry goods store and was not allowed to wait on customers because his boss said he lacked the sense needed to do so.

Akio Morita: You may not have heard of Morita but you’ve undoubtedly heard of his company, Sony. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that unfortunately didn’t cook rice so much as burn it, selling less than 100 units. This first setback didn’t stop Morita and his partners as they pushed forward to create a multi-billion dollar company

Harland David Sanders: Perhaps better known as Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken fame, Sanders had a hard time selling his chicken at first. In fact, his famous secret chicken recipe was rejected 1,009 times before a restaurant accepted it.

 

Walt Disney: Today Disney rakes in billions from merchandise, movies and theme parks around the world, but Walt Disney himself had a bit of a rough start. He was fired by a newspaper editor because, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, Disney started a number of businesses that didn’t last too long and ended with bankruptcy and failure. He kept plugging along, however, and eventually found a recipe for success that worked.

 

Albert Einstein: Most of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.

 

Thomas Edison: In his early years, teachers told Edison he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Work was no better, as he was fired from his first two jobs for not being productive enough. Even as an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. Of course, all those unsuccessful attempts finally resulted in the design that worked.

 

Oprah Winfrey: Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a rough and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for tv.”

 

Jerry Seinfeld: Just about everybody knows who Seinfeld is, but the first time the young comedian walked on stage at a comedy club, he looked out at the audience, froze and was eventually jeered and booed off of the stage. Seinfeld knew he could do it, so he went back the next night, completed his set to laughter and applause, and the rest is history.

 

Fred Astaire: In his first screen test, the testing director of MGM noted that Astaire, “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” Astaire went on to become an incredibly successful actor, singer and dancer and kept that note in his Beverly Hills home to remind him of where he came from.

 

Vincent Van Gogh: During his lifetime, Van Gogh sold only one painting, and this was to a friend and only for a very small amount of money. While Van Gogh was never a success during his life, he plugged on with painting, sometimes starving to complete his over 800 known works. Today, they bring in hundreds of millions.

 

Steven Spielberg: While today Spielberg’s name is synonymous with big budget, he was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Theater, Film and Television three times. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a director before finishing. Thirty-five years after starting his degree, Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to finally complete his work and earn his BA.

 

J. K. Rowling: Rowling may be rolling in a lot of Harry Potter dough today, but before she published the series of novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.

Elvis Presley: As one of the best-selling artists of all time, Elvis has become a household name even years after his death. But back in 1954, Elvis was still a nobody, and Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, fired Elvis Presley after just one performance telling him, “You ain’t goin’ nowhere, son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.”

Michael Jordan: Most people wouldn’t believe that a man often lauded as the best basketball player of all time was actually cut from his high school basketball team. Luckily, Jordan didn’t let this setback stop him from playing the game and he has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

 

Babe Ruth: You probably know Babe Ruth because of his home run record (714 during his career), but along with all those home runs came a pretty hefty amount of strikeouts as well (1,330 in all). In fact, for decades he held the record for strikeouts. When asked about this he simply said, “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”

Write your name here(and write your future on these lines, create you own outcome)

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The only failure is when you QUIT

I wonder which one of you will have their name on this list.

It’s up to you, but if you keep going, no matter what, then it’s just a matter of time

I wonder… which of the rest of you…will be the ones… that almost did?

YOU DECIDE

It begins with 1 decision

You never know what’s just around the corner

Deirdre Rolfe

Clinical Hypnotherapist and Clinical Counsellor

www.counselloroncall.com.au

How can we make people change?

How can we make people change?

Most people focus on how they can get their partner, parent or friend…to change.That direction of energy only compounds the problem and is futile as …changing someone else…is IMPOSSIBLE.We therefore must focus on ourselves…as change is an internal process.It is through this process however we can effect change in another.Change can take years, or change can be instant…it begins with a decision.Once change occurs, the perception is altered creating a new reality.Change is powerful, change is linear…stepping out of that cycle or loop of powerlessness allows you to tap into your true strength.Change begins with surrender…true control IS surrender…trusting in oneself to let go of that which is outside of your power and trusting in your own inner resources to deal with it.Letting go, in fact, is most difficult in the prethought of that action, once its done…immediate relief soon follows.Accept others for their strenghts and weaknesses, focus on the evolution of YOU.
Deirdre Rolfe
http://www.counselloroncall.com.au